Find the missing puzzle pieces to the family caregiving journey!
Just didn’t think about it.
Sitting here thinking about the last 17 years and realizing there are several missing puzzle pieces to caregiving.
Did you know that November is National Family Caregiver month?
I love mom, I love my family, I love that I traveled many places in the world, I love God, I love being a grandma, I love Troy Ohio,
I do have many days, hours, minutes, and seconds that I feel totally alone and that nobody understands what I’m feeling or thinking.
I’ve learned by talking with a dear friend who’s a counselor and was also a caregiver, these feelings are normal and I’m OK.
After 20+ years of caring for several family members and other elderly people I wonder what my life will look like after this chapter is complete.
I don’t like this feeling.
Will I know how to care for Donna when the next chapter begins to unfold?
I’m no one special, I experience depression, loneliness, fear and uncertainty of tomorrow.
Yet, I know who holds my tomorrow in the palm of His hands and somehow, I’ll be OK.
Life is not an event but a process.
The process won’t be easy but I know God has placed me with people who get it.
I belong to a support group which I can’t always make it in person now but I know they’re praying for me and are there when I need to pick up the phone.
There are days when I’m okay with that, and they are days when I’m not.
Caregivers have a bond that no one else can comprehend.
Family Caregivers have an even closer bond.
But the most important puzzle piece for changing your life will be the relationships you build.
Caring for an aging parent or loved one 24/7 is one giant puzzle, a missing piece leaves a hole.
How do you find the missing puzzle pieces?
The missing piece, stands between you and your caregiving, keeping you from fully feeling confident and balanced in providing the care you’re giving to your elderly parent.
It only takes one piece to be missing and the puzzle will be incomplete..
When caring for your older parents these thoughts run through your brain.
- “If I can just figure this out it will come together.”
- You’re almost done, but there’s a MAJOR holdup…
- Sometimes you’re scared out of your wits.
That’s when you realize it’ll take your energy or provide and give you the energy to keep on moving forward and be determine that life will be brighter on the other side.
We family caregivers are all on this journey together.
We hear that God never gives us more than we can handle, although some days it sure feels like it.
Feeling fear and doing it anyways is a huge part of the caregiving journey.
It’s part of being human. It’s part of caring for an aged loved one.
It’s part of life.
There’s no such thing as perfection – if something is too good to be true, it means it’s probably fake.
What you see others projecting – pretending – is just a show, a mask that they wear.
If they took their mask off, they’d break down and cry, and possibly you may see that your problems are not that bad, after all.
Despite knowing that I’ve been vital to my mom sometimes it feels like I’m invisible.
I’m starting to feel like the life of a caregiver is bigger than I am.
Family caregiving training is limited, a missing piece to the puzzle.
Look for your own training, I did.
I started feeling overlooked and I decided to take action like my life depended on it.
So I’m here now to draw attention to areas that family caregivers need.
Flip the puzzle pieces face up, isn’t that what most people do when they are working on a puzzle?
If the pieces are upside down how in the world do you think you can find where it goes.
When problems knock you down it’s a good idea to find a way to sort through all the pieces and look at every one of them.
We forget they’re just a piece of the puzzle.
Turn them all up the right way and sort them like you would a puzzle.
Only focus on your puzzle.
Five sisters and one got sick, the other four became her caregivers and now they feel like they’ve lost a piece of their puzzle.
Keep your pieces separate from other people’s puzzles.
Finding the missing puzzle pieces will put together a beautiful picture.