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Donna Harris is the author and creator of Donna The Crazy Caregiver.
She shows other family caregivers who also jumped off
the merry-go-round how to join the party.

She wants to help Caregivers step into their God Given Powers
to live a better spiritual, physical and financial life
and build lasting memories with their aging parent.

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Home Care Assistance

Home care assistance is on the rise.

Who does your parent trust the most?

Probably YOU!

They trust you with their care before they trust a complete stranger.

I’ve been providing care for my 100 year old mother for over 16 plus years.

I’m constantly searching for new and better ways and products that’ll help me make this a joyful journey.

There needs to be balance, order and peace in both you, your family and your senior parent lives.

This helps keep a meaningful relationship in order for your aging parent to remain at home where they want to be.

You’ll still run into issues with home care but on a whole it’s an honor to keep mom at home.

Home care with a local provider is smart.

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If you’re caring for a parent and seeking help thru a local provider they can help you identify your parent’s personal needs.

Mom still has spunk at 100 years old.

If you have an outside career and can’t be with your parent 24/7 then a local agency can help here also.

This gives you peace of mind.

I’ll talk about how you can get help thru a local agency soon.

That’s another subject for another day.

The local provider is there to support you and to help you get thru different issues that may come up.

What is home care assistance?

Care in the home by an adult child is non-medical, you take care of your parent’s basic needs.

Oh, you may have to care for a bruise that’s oozing or put ice packs on their backs but for the most part you’re a custodial caretaker.

Assistance can include making sure the home is safe, you do provide companionship and see to it that their daily needs are met.

This will allow your parent to stay at home instead of moved to a skilled nursing home.

You become your parent’s personal care assistant:

  • grocery shopping
  • making sure they eat properly (cleaning out their frig)
  • prepare meals for them
  • making sure they take the right meds
  • cleaning house

As our parent age their bodies and minds change too.

Living in your own home gives you and your parent more flexibility.

Just sitting on the front porch at home is a blessing.

Mom is much more comfortable at home and sleeping in her OWN bed rather than a hospital bed.

Our parents are much more satisfied sitting in their own living room watching a tv program than sitting in a circle at the nursing home.

Mom sits on the front porch and watches me mow the front lawn.

Gives her much more pleasure than sitting or laying in bed in a facility.

Having a little family time.

Benefits of a home care assistant.

  • Not around sick or dying patients.
  • Easier to stay connected to family and friends
  • Better health and reduces hospital stays.
  • Your senior parent’s privacy is not invaded.
  • Less stress for your older loved one.
  • Higher quality of care.
  • Lastly…it’s a whole lot less expensive.

Preserve our loved ones dignity at home.

It’s not always easy and sometimes it gets very hard to be the adult child primary caregiver but it does give you a sense of pride.

Just knowing that you gave your loved one their last final wish to stay at home as long as possible with quality assistance from family.






Your Duty and Responsibilities

Caregiver Duties and Responsibilities…

Caregiver duties and responsibilities for the elderly…

My duty and job as a caregiver became so much more when I officially became mom’s primary caregiver.

Tasks that I took over was:

  • all of mom’s finances
  • doctor appointments
  • meal preparations
  • bathing and dressing
  • shopping for mom
  • grooming
  • keeping the house
  • mow yard
  • do laundry

This is just the beginning, the list can go on and on and on.

Caregiver duties and responsibilities.

The difference between your role and responsibilities.

There’s only one role or duty but there could be many responsibilities.

Roles are the area caregivers assume or are assigned.

Right now your role is the family caregiver.

Responsibilities are the specific tasks or duties the family caregivers are expected to complete according to the care plan.


What do you do as a caregiver?

You not only do all of the above that I just mentioned but you become your parent’s advocate.

  • You make important phone calls.
  • You also can be expected to entertain their visitors.
  • You provide companionship to your aging parent at some point.
  • You take them out for rides and out to eat, this can be a small part of companionship.
  • You kind of give up your life and it becomes intertwined with their life, or so it seems.


Caregiving responsibilities…

The responsibility is to do whatever your aging parent is not capable of performing any longer.  And it can get pretty taxing.

An example of just one responsibility is to make sure they take the correct number of meds prescribed and when to take them.

Responsibility can come in many shapes and sizes.

It can and probably will become very demanding on you, the family caregiver.

Caregiver duty and responsiblities

How do live-in caregiver duties and responsibilities differ from duties and responsibilities of a hospital caregiver?

Live-in caregiver are likely to provide transportation when the hospital caregiver won’t.

A live-in family caregiver may take their aging parent on a short trip where the caregiver in the hospital can’t.

Most family caregiver will more than likely be there for emotional support where the caregivers don’t have time in the hospital.

You’re caring a heavy load where the hospital caregiver can take time off and not give your aging parent a second thought when they are off duty.

There are two of you that you’re responsible for now.

Two important people. . YOU and your aging parent.


3 tips to make your role a little easier.

  • Care for your parent from the heart and not because you think you owe them.
  • Remember your parent is still your parent, they’re just a little different today.
  • Set boundaries for yourself and recruit help from siblings or other family members from the start.


3 tips to make the responsibilities easier.

  • Make sure to take care of yourself and get enough sleep.
  • Take responsibility for your own care, take breaks.
  • Remember if you don’t get it done right away it will always be there tomorrow.


Educate yourself on the caregiving role and responsibilities.

Learn the resources that are available that will help you with your new role and responsibilities of caring for your aging parent.

Educate yourself on the disease or diseases your elderly loved one is facing.

Be or get prepared so you aren’t in the dark.

Talk to your care agency provider for support.

There’s help out there to support the caregiver as you take on or face existing issues.

The duty and responsibility are important.

You’re important and don’t forget that.

Without you taking on the duty and responsibility of caring for your elderly parent there’s only two other options:

  1. strangers come in to help
  2. taken to a nursing home

Your role is crucial and the responsibilities are great so be watchful of the duty in which you’re in charge of for your aging parent’s personal care.

Mom and daughter love.

Your Guide to In Home Personal Care

The 2018 Ultimate Guide to In Home Personal Care

I moved in with my mother while going thru a tough divorce never thinking I’d actually end up being mom’s in home personal care aide. I figured I’d be there just a few weeks or months. A few short weeks later mom came close to having a stroke and that’s when the doctor discussed with the family that our mom couldn’t live alone any longer. That’s when the in-home care began.

After mom was released from the hospital maybe a week later a social worker came by to see if mom needed anything to make her care better. During the visit the social worker focused his attention on me and asked “Donna would you like to get paid for what you are already doing?

House cleaning chores is just a small part of being an in home personal care aide.


Who wouldn’t, right? That’s when the process began and I was suddenly mom’s In Home Caregiver and I was getting paid. What a blessing in disguise. That was sixteen years ago and maybe even longer.
We’ve had our ups and downs believe me but I am proud that I’ve been able to keep her home where she really wanted to be.

What’s the alternative…nursing home or strangers coming in to care for her.

Is in home care with a family member better and how does it differ from in home care thru a local caregiver agency?

Personal care can be given by a family member or a certified caregiver who has had formal training.

A family caregiver

  • Already knows the aging parents routine.
  • Knows what they like and dislike.
  • Will become their advocate.
  • Will keep a closer eye out for different situations that a certified caregiver will not or cannot.
  • Will make the aging parent feel more comfortable rather than a strange skilled in home care person.
  • Will be more attentive and sensitive.

How personal care helps the elderly parent living at home have a more vibrant life.

It’s important because you’re making a difference in your parent’s life every day.  Share a laugh and these will be treasures for you to cherish. These cherished moments can also act as fuel to keep you hanging in there with all the ups and downs. Looking back on your journey, you will remember those tender moments.

Not all your caregiving is rewarding. Some may be disgusting at times and personal care goes bad. The fact that our aging parent may not want to take a bath or even change clothes.
They may simply forget. This doesn’t necessarily cause a health problem but oh boy it can cause people to not want to be around you.

By a family member providing personal care for their aging parent helps them live cleaner, happier and safer lives in the end.

Disposable underwear can help the aging parent and less stress for the caregiver.

4 simple in home personal care tips that will save you time and energy.

  1. Let them do as much as possible for themselves just be there.
  2. Ask your elderly parent if they need help with their bathe or shower.
  3. Get them to drink as much water as possible.
  4. Remind them to change undies more often (major cause of uti per our family doctor)

Family Caregivers May Have To Pay a Price

Family Caregivers May Have To Pay a Price When an Aging Parent Wants to Die At Home.

More and more I see adult children caring for their elderly parents at home and for family caregivers there may be a price to pay.

I don’t think many adult children even think about the time when their parent takes their last breath.

It could happen at home, which sounds like a good thing, but is it?

I have cared for my mother for over 16 years now and I haven’t given this much thought until just recently.

My dad died at home and my older sister died at home but I wasn’t their sole caregiver.

For over 16 years it’s only been myself and my now 100 year old mother.

family caregivers may have to pay a price when devoting your life to a 100 years old parent.

Taking care of elderly parents in your home is happening more often and sometimes is a heavy price to pay.

Today in my Facebook newsfeed was an article that really got me thinking about this and I haven’t been able to think of anything else.

Is dying at home really best for all those that are involved?

I read an article that shows death now occur at home and deaths in hospitals and nursing homes have dropped.

Looking at this, I’m sure from my mother’s point of view this may make sense to her.

Wouldn’t you want to die in your own bed?  Really?

Who wants to die at the hospital with tubes down your throat and IV’s in your arms and maybe hooked up to life support.

Not a pretty picture.

Being in a nursing home can be quite lonely.

I sat with my mom several years ago when she fell and broke her hip and let me tell you I saw those poor girls run their butts off.

To the person laying in the bed and the family sitting beside them it appears their family member is being neglected.

I guess I saw another side since this is what I do at home for my mom.

Now I know there are instances where they truly are neglected but since I do this at home I know how tiring it must be taking care of a whole hall instead of just 1 little old lady, my mom.

A caregivers life changes…

If your elderly parent wants to stay at home to live out their final days they have need a full time person caring for them.

It usually comes down to one particular adult child but the family caregivers will probably pay a price.

This is where the family caregiver bears the full burden when caring for an elderly parent.

Now I do get paid for taking care of my mother thru a local agency but it’s only for 40 hours a week and how many hours in a week are there???

I learned some interesting facts about family caregivers who are caring for alzheimer’s patients.

If you’re the only one caring for your parent that could easily be 24/7 7 days a week which is 168 hours a week.

I care for mom unpaid for 128 of those hours.

Paying the price!

I’ve met numerous people who are caring for their parents either in their home or their parent’s home and taking on the full responsibility of helping them stay home until their last breath is taken.

I know about paying the price and sacrificing as a caregiver because I have first-hand experience of taking care of my mother for 16 + years now.

I’ve witnessed my dad’s death and my older sister’s death both in their homes, but this will be a totally different experience when I go thru it.

Dying at home sounds like a good idea for the older person.

For the adult child who has sacrificed alone and will be left with an empty and lonely place afterwards this experience may not be as good of an idea for them.

I’m sure it’ll be a draining, gut wrenching nightmare that no amount of healing will ever be able to fix.”

Giving up your life to care for an elderly parent.

Mom, at 84 came close to having a stroke and the family doctor told us mom could not live alone anymore.

Mom has outlived all her friends and her siblings except one who is 4 years younger than her.

Well since I had just gone thru a nasty divorce and had come to mom’s to regroup for a couple of weeks before, tell me how I could’ve picked up and said adios and disappeared.

How could a daughter do that?

It came down to me the only one who didn’t have a spouse so that qualified me to come care for mom and honor her wishes which I’m sure is to die at home.

We have a home health nurse who comes in every other week to check mom’s vitals and just to do a basic check over.

She does ask how I’m doing but on a whole I don’t think anyone else even thinks about what I’m going thru.

It’s like turning on the light switch, you just do it without thinking about it.

Family around me know I’m here and just don’t give it any thought.

Mom’s cared for and that’s all that matters.

At least this is what runs through my head all the time.

I also cared for my father up to his death.  But I wasn’t alone after he passed away.

This will be a huge difference this time.

I was also my sister’s caregiver but I didn’t live with her so that was different also.

This time I will be left all ALONE and to be truthful I’m a little scared about it so that’s why I’m writing about it now.

Caring for aging parents is a sacrifice and not only you pay the price but your family as well.

What I do…

  • prepare mom’s meals 3X daily
  • help her take a bath
  • check for sores on her bottom
  • wash and roll her hair
  • doctor visits
  • taking her for rides
  • sitting on the porch with her

taking care of her EVERY need and all the other duties one does to keep a house up and

I get lost in the daily grind and I forget to take care of Donna and her needs.

Sometimes that loud voice inside my head says “Who’s Donna”?

There are days I truly don’t know.

Now I know it sounds like I’m complaining and maybe in some small way I am, I just get sad when I look around me and I see my family going about family gatherings without me.

It does hurt.

It really does but I’ve had people say “you decided to do this.”

That hurts too.

On the other side I’m very happy to do this for mom.

How can one be happy and sad at the same time for doing what needs to be done.

Aging parents dying at home family caregivers may have to pay a price.

I’ve watched mom over the months decline in many ways but still spry in many ways.

I’m here alone.

I feel alone.

People tell me to call them…sometimes I do and sometimes I just don’t.

People are out having a life and when I call they can’t just drop everything just for me.

So I just carry on alone and wait…wait for God to carry me thru.

“It’s terrible sometimes and it’s wonderful sometimes,”

“Dying at home may be beautiful to some? … I’m just not sure it will be for me when the time comes.”

Love just isn’t enough and when your mom turns 100 years of age life takes on a different view.

Of course not all see it that way.

Despite the challenges, many caregivers intend to walk the last mile with their loved one.

I’ve never thought anything about it honestly, it was a given that was what we do until I saw and read that article which now has me thinking…ABOUT my future without mom and what it will be like after all these years.

There is stress involved in caring for your aging parent and it effects the caregiver too.

One adult child should not be left alone to handle the situation.

When the time comes I have no idea what it will look like around here.

Who pays the price when an elderly parent decides they want to die at home?

Most adult children who give up their life to be the primary family caregiver will pay some kind of price for the decision when your aging loved one wants to die at home.


100 Years Old is a Whole Lot of Living

100 years oldI have not given it much thought of all that I need to be grateful for, like mom turning 100 years old.  We often don’t remember to think of all the things in our life that we could enjoy and appreciate.  I look at mom turning 100 years old on May 20th and she is so excited because she will be the oldest one in her family.  No other family member lived to be 100 years old.  Such a milestone for sure.

I also never realized all the friends we have.  Mom is getting flooded with birthday cards and she watches everyday for the mailman.  Perhaps if we took time to look at what is good in our life we wouldn’t be so preoccupied with all the bad.

I know I allow my mind to get filled with grievances and I notice the more I think of them the BIGGER they get.  We would be much better off if we surrendered to God and all His goodness, don’t get sucked up and controlled in all the negative thinking and stray from all the goodness that is surrounding you.

Live to a 100 years old with grace, integrity, strength, joy and love and it’s an honor to be mom’s caregiver.

Every day a period of thanking God for the love and life that we are so graciously abounded with is necessary for our spiritual development.  We need to control our thoughts.  Not an easy job in this life but it can be done.  No time for self-pity.  By doing this we will find our self able to ask for God’s help to manage every area and live in serenity.


God has given us the faculties by which we are able to bear what comes to pass without being crushed or depressed thereby.

Why then do we sit and moan and groan, blind to the Giver, making no acknowledgment to Him, but giving ourselves to complaints?  (Epictetus)


I think of the challenges my mother has gone through in her 100 year old life.  Keep our thoughts and words fresh and running water flowing down the hill

Keep our thoughts and words fresh like the running water as it flows on down the hill.

When I look at my challenges I realize that other people’s problems make mine look small and yet they face them with determination and courage.

When I think of what others are facing, my load begins to lighten.

When things look bleak that’s the time to look inside for the light within me.

Don’t let life make you crazy, go out and make this the greatest day of your life.


I wish you well,

Donna The Crazy Caregiver

P.S. You can find out more about >>>> Donna

Every caregiver needs an income backup plan.

A Financial Income Backup Plan

As a family caregiver, it’s smart to have A Financial Income Backup Plan.

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Today I will have a plan, I may not follow it exactly but I will have a plan.

What about you?

Adult children want to keep their aging parent at home if at all possible.

When we as children see that our elderly parent needs care we want to jump in and help them
knowing that it will cause stress on our finances if we have to make changes at our job.

I know for myself I did not think about having a financial income backup plan, I just didn’t.

Most of us realize our finances will change when we make this move but I don’t think we see just how big an
impact it will have on our lives and our families lives.

Keeping our loved one at home is our main focus but it could cost added stress, time and attention and this usually affects our finances.

There just isn’t any handbook that teaches us what emotions we will address in the future.

We are generally on our own.  There may be resources but for the most part we learn from trial and error.

It’s very daunting caring for an aging parent and also trying to keep up your own life and family. Our financial security is at risk.

Caring for our elderly parents does come with a cost.

Alzheimer's Disease

Taking on the responsibility for your frail parent or ill more than likely will bring on a huge challenge as you balance your time and energy
between you, your family and your aging loved one.

There are ways to supplement your income but you need to be careful.

Here are a few…

  • Online Tutor
  • Customer Service Representive
  • Create a product to help others and promote online
  • Freelance editor

Always be cautious when seeking work-at-home employment opportunities. Scammers are out there and seeking to obtain access to personal and financial information. 

Do your due diligence.

Be wary of any company that promises you’ll “get rich quick” by working for them part-time.

Companies that require unpaid training or ask you to spend money to apply for the job or position should also be considered untrustworthy.


Talk to your family.   Get ideas on how to replace or add to your income while caring for your ill parent.

This stage of your life could last several years and coping with financial tension could pop up.

A financial income backup plan is essential so I decided to create my own place to increase my income.

You do not want to go into this caregiving journey without a financial backup plan.

I decided to build an income on my own terms to bring in extra cash and this enables me to continue caring for my
mother right here at home.

My hours, my way, my decision, my time off and no one can tell me that my family can’t come first.

You can do this too.

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Everyone needs an income backup plan.

Donna Harris aka Donna The Crazy Caregiver



Loss of Hearing

Loss of Hearing Comes In Different Types

Loss of Hearing Comes In Different Types


Loss of hearing comes in different types.  The loss can be mild.  What is mild hearing loss? On average, the most quiet sounds that people can hear with their better ear are between 25 and 40 dB. People who suffer from mild hearing loss have some difficulties keeping up with conversations, especially in noisy surroundings.

It can be moderate.

What is moderate hearing loss? On average, the most quiet sounds heard by people with their better ear are between 40 and 70 dB. People who suffer from moderate hearing loss have difficulty keeping up with conversations when not using a hearing aid.

It can be severe.

What is severe hearing loss? On average, the most quiet sounds heard by people with their better ear are between 70 and 95 dB. People who suffer from severe hearing loss will benefit from powerful hearing aids, but often they rely heavily on lip-reading even when they are using hearing aids. Some also use sign language.

It certainly can also be profound.

What is profound hearing loss? On average, the most quiet sounds heard by people with a better ear are from 95 dB or more. People who suffer from profound loss of hearing are very hard of hearing and rely mostly on lip-reading, and/or sign language.

Loss of hearing is how well you or your parent can hear other people or noise.  It can come on quickly or slowly.

Hearing problems are a very common issue that affects the older population between 65 and older. 

loss of hearing

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In my research I find there is no explanation why we lose more of our hearing as we age.   Maybe it’s loud noises over our lifetime that can slowly wear down the inside of our ears.  Your genes could also play a very important role in loss of hearing.

  • Does your parent have to constantly ask people to repeat themselves?
  • Do they have trouble understanding what the doctor has said to the both of you?
  • Does their ability to hear sounds make it hard for them to drive their car?
  • Do they need to have their TV volume up so loud that the other people in the household are going crazy?
  • Have they stopped going to church because they are unable to hear the pastor’s message?
  • Do they feel left out when they attend a family gathering and become a silent person because they have no idea what the conversations are around them?
  • Do they hear others but cannot comprehend what is being said?
  • Have ringing in their ears?
  • Is your parent tone deaf?

Hearing impairment can be very serious.

Your first step should be to get examined by the family doctor.  They may have an ear full of wax.  This alone can cause them to be hard of hearing.

If the doctor recommends an ear cleaning then I suggest going to an ear doctor.  I have taken my mom to her family physician and she was in there for over an hour when the nurses flushing and flushing and still didn’t get all the wax.  Finally when I took her to an ear doctor we were in and out in 20 min.  He sucked that wax out in seconds and we were on our way home.  Mom’s ears seem to fill up quickly and can hear a little better once the wax is removed but she still has trouble hearing.  I take her on a regular basis for a cleaning, it does help not plug up the hearing aid.  Caring for an aging mom takes stamina.


Unable to hear can also be caused by viral or bacterial infections, heart conditions or stroke, head injuries, tumors, and certain medicines so don’t take this mildly.  Make an appointment for your parent with their physician.

If they do have a hearing test and find that they are going deaf there are so many treatments and devices to help them that will be recommended by your local ear doctor.

You can learn to make life easier for you and your parent’s but it will take time.  I find myself always forgetting to do these small little things that could help the both of us to make hearing for mom a little easier. Here are some things you can do:

  • Ask your friends and family to look at them when they talk so that your parent can see their faces. If they watch their faces and see their expressions, it could help them to understand the conversation better.
  • Ask people to speak louder, but not shout. Tell them they do not have to talk slowly, just more clearly. BUT trust me talking louder can become a habit. I find myself talking loud even when mom is not around because it has become a habit for me.
  • Be aware of noise around the person with the hearing disorder because background noise makes it hard to hear people talk.

Working together to hear better may be tough on everyone for a while. It will take time for them to get used to watching people as they talk and for people to get used to speaking louder and more clearly. Be patient and continue to work together. Hearing better is worth the effort.

Did you know that Noise wears down hearing if it’s loud or continuous? That’s why certain occupations wear earplugs when their ears are exposed to dangerous noise levels every day like our kids and teenagers having their radios up so loud that the neighbors can hear it or the cars riding down the road beside you can feel their car vibrate.  To understand the impact of noise, consider this: 44% of carpenters and 48% of plumbers report some hearing loss. Other noisy lines of work include the military, mining, manufacturing, agriculture, and transportation.  We need to protect the ears in our younger life.

Did you know that even musicians, who actually create music for our enjoyment, are at risk for hearing loss also? Some now wear special earplugs to protect their ears when they are performing on stage. The earplugs allow them to hear music without harming their ears’ inner workings.

Certain medications can harm ears and cause unbalance. There are many medicines that have side effects so please check with your doctor.

There are certain illnesses like heart diseasehigh blood pressure, and also diabetes that interfere with the ears’ blood supply. Many things can cause loss of hearing so ask your physician to explain this to you and your parent in terms that you understand.

Ear Infection or earwax can block ear canals and cause a hearing loss.Hearing Disorder

Remember that not every hearing aid is the same. Do your due diligence and research.  Make sure to ask your parent’s family doctor to refer you to someone who will take their time and be patient with them.  It will take time to get used to the new hearing aid.

Your loved one may need to have several fittings of their hearing aid, and you will need to get directions on how to help them use it. Hearing aids use batteries, which they will need to change on a regular basis. You may have to do it for them.  They also may need repairs from time to time. Buy a hearing aid that has only the features that they need.

There are many devices that can help your parent with hearing loss.

Many products will help them live a little better and not feel isolated. Caption telephones, alerts that help with hearing the doorbell, smoke detectors and even alarm clocks that talks to you.

There are many things you can do about a hearing loss disorder but you will have to search.  I know we did.  And it can be time consuming but worth it.  Right below is a telephone for people with severe hearing loss.  I’m always searching for something that will make mom and my life better and easier.

Check out The NIDCD (National Institute on Deafness and Other Communication Disorders) for it maintains a directory of organizations that provide information on the normal and disordered processes of hearing, balance, taste, smell, voice, speech, and language.

Loss of hearing effects everyone around and causes many issues that can arise when caring for your aging father or mother.  It takes a determined person to get thru the daily duties and not throw your hands up and run because there will be days you feel like giving up.  Until the next page.  I wish you well.

Donna The Crazy Caregiver

memory loss can effect any age

Memory Loss Problems Not Always In Elderly

Memory loss can be identified with …

mild memory lapse such as forgetting where you put your keys or reading glasses, though worrisome, are normal, experts say…

Dementia patients however, forget where they are or to go to the bathroom.  Alzheimer’s Disease is irreversible.  I go blank many times wondering if I’m losing my memory or my mind and I’m sure you have too from being smacked in the face with all the crazy stuff that hits us daily.

There are so many things that can cause blackout today.

We have so much information bombarding us from every direction that it’s no wonder we have trouble remembering everything.

I walked into Walmart yesterday and the first thing I see is an overhead screen with a video of some product in their store. You drive down the highway and see billboards staring you in the face.

Our brains just can’t handle all the information that is smacking us in the face and it will continue to get worse as technology improves.

Memory loss goes beyond dementiaThere are several reasons for short term memory other than overload of info and they are as follows…

  • Medications could be a culprit…
  • How are your sleep habits…
  • Are you stressed over life itself…
  • What about your diet…
  • Some form of head injury…
  • A stroke…
  • Dementia…
  • Do you have an overactive thyroid…
  • A lack of sufficient B12…
  • An infection…
  • Alcohol…
  • Tumor…
  • Physical abuse…
  • Drugs…
  • Tobacco…
  • Falls where you may have hit your head…
  • And of course information overload.

Alzheimer’s Disease is irreversible.

Memory loss and dementia

I am sure the list could go on and on from here but you get the point, RIGHT? I will be adding pages on Dementia and Alzheimer’s since we are caring for our aging parents. Don’t be surprised if you forget occasionally and have a little memory loss because of the anxiety of being the provider for your elderly parents. This is bound to happen. Keep looking up and I will get the info to you soon on these two topics.

As we continue on this journey of providing care for our loved ones we need to be informed. I have taken so many classes that are required of me to continue caring for my own 98 year old mother that I decided I could not keep this info to myself but needed to put it in my own words and what I have seen dealing with family and friends. Memory loss is at the top of the list. I hope this at least helps YOU. Please share this information with your circle of influence because we never know who is hurting in this big old world of ours. Until the next page…I wish you well.

Donna The Crazy Caregiver just going crazy for my momma.

I’m no doctor.  I’m only sharing my experiences, so if you have any questions please consult your family physician.

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Odor of Incontinence and How To Cope

Odor of Incontinence and how to cope with it.

The odor of incontinence is something that you will experience when caring for an elderly parent who has problems with urine and bowel control?

You are not alone.

The smell or offensive urine odor of incontinence alone is tough to deal with.

It can be embarrassing for you and your loved one.

Are you seeing wet beds, wet spots on clothes, hidden underwear, sores on your loved one’s bottom?

When you have lived with this issue for a long period of time you may not even be aware there is an odor.

AND asking someone you trust to tell you honestly if there is an odor in your home is hard to do.

There are several ways to help eliminate or at least keep the odor of incontinence down to a minimum the best way you can.Odor of Incontinence

THESE are the best steps I have found to help with incontinence…

  • Get your loved one to drink as much water as you possible can and this can be a tough call.  Did you know that many older people with incontinence drinks less water?
  • Avoid drinking lots of caffeine.
  • Drinking cranberry juice has been known to help keep the urine odor down and also will help with UTIs.
  • If the urine is excessively strong odor you may want to check for a possible urinary tract infection.
  • If you have a routine nurse visits for your parent ask them about bladder training.
  • Put a schedule up to remind your loved one to go to the bathroom.  They tend to forget.
  • Wash bed sheets and clothing in white vinegar.
  • You can use baking soda but do not mix it with vinegar.  One or the other but not together.
  • Your local janitorial supply has cleaner specifically for urine smells that are for controlling urine smells.
  • Always cover your bed and furniture with reusable waterproof pads.  I always have a pad on the floor in front of the potty chair for leakage.

You more than likely will have to put a bedside commode over the regular toilet to raise the seat, purchase a toilet seat that is raised or put in a higher toilet.  This makes it much easier for older people.

Elder people more than not have to resort to wearing adult diapers or protective underwear.  They may be embarrassed when you approach this but in time they will come to have more dignity and not worry about having an accident while out and about.

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Did you know that more women than men are likely to show signs of incontinence?

If you have an aging parent with dementia no doubt they will begin to forget the need to go to the bathroom and you will begin to notice the odor of incontinence.


  • Depression
  • Difficulty walking
  • Weight gain
  • Medication
  • Heart problems
  • Diabetes (some nerve damage)

Can cause incontinence.

Always, always communicate with the family physician.

Incontinence is NOT a disease but a symptom.

Make a note to let the family doctor know when you smell an odor of incontinence.

Discuss what other options you may have.

More than not, your parent will leave a lot of information out because they are either embarrassed, forget or don’t want to take any more medication.

It’s up to you as their caregiver to inform the dr.


Medicaid Recovery Estate Secret

Medicaid Recovery Estate Secret They Don’t Want You To Find.

Medicaid Recovery Estate Secret they don’t want you to find.

Do you know the medicaid recovery estate secret? Family Caregivers have had enough! Sacrifice your life, then find yourself on the curb? It’s admirable to give up our life and family to care for an elderly parent but we’re a “HUMAN” Too!

YES, we have feelings, emotions and health issues too. And, yes, there are advantages of caring for an aging parent. Building lasting memories <3

Now I know that Medicaid will want to get reimbursed some how some way. We have paid into the government for years and years and after our loved one has passed away the government or Medicaid now wants to take the home place and the estate so they can recoup what they paid out so learn the medicaid estate recovery secret before it’s to late by clicking the blue link right ==> so you don’t have to worry about your future if you know the correct steps to take!

The Truth About The Medicaid Recovery Secret

Which is why reading this article and learning your rights to the Medicaid Recovery Estate Secret is very important to you or a family member.


Being a family caregiver ain’t all popsicles and baby giggles.

> You don’t get paid diddly-squat.

> It takes forever (and a day) *to* find support.

> Your life has been reversed.

> The odds are way way WAY against you, there will be many ups and downs.

> Those who beat the odds usually end up broke, physically wore out, mentally and emotionally drained.

I could go on and on, but I think you get the picture, don’t you? And look, call me a negative person all you want. But I’ve lived it and still living it… I’ve cared for 3 family members and several friends and still the primary caregiver to my 99 year old mother.

You have to be committed! Time and time again family caregivers

… work their butt off…

… only to be left with a maxed-out credit card, no savings and maybe sitting on the curb.

Has this ever happened to someone you know? If so, stop right now.

Learn what the ‘Medicaid Recovery Estate Secret’ is about.

Poof.. PART of your problem solved.

Hey, it’s Donna Harris aka ‘Donna The Crazy Caregiver’.

We put this special report together called:

Discover The ‘Medicaid Recovery Estate Secret’ They Don’t Want You To Know…

Because, well, that’s what we felt like we had to do. (Could be your solution.) If you’re worried about the sacrifice you’ve made and not knowing what your future will look like… after taking care of everyone but yourself…


Watch the short video…if you want to learn more click the link.

‘That’s it’

Best of all, hopefully you will no longer have to worry about where you will go after your aging parent has passed.

> You call the shots, NOT Medicaid.

> Take control of your future.

> The info is all public.

> You just have to have the time and energy to locate it.

> And nobody can pull the rug out from under you once this is secure.

NOW take just a few minutes to learn more below. And once you click the link, the info could SET YOU FREE. (It will, if you do it right.)

“Sounds too good to be true,” you might think. Listen, you need to get busy while your parents are still on this earth with you. You still gotta learn some stuff.   And put in the work. But it’s a small price to pay considering the upside. Besides, relax. You could be saving thousands of dollars.

Let me prove it. I can back up everything I just said and show you how this adult daughter, ME.. saved my mother’s home…

Even if you have no money and no clue where to start, in fact, all you need is a laptop to get started.

Hey, I know you want to get this taken care of. I know you don’t enjoy breaking your back while everyone else has a life and building a nest egg.

AND the fact that, after the passing of your aging parent, some stranger can put a letter in the mail to you… without warning and tell you they are taking everything that your parents saved and worked hard for …

I know how devastating it would be to receive a letter like this right after you lost your loved one.

So get the facts on the State Medicaid Recovery Estate Secret!

If you take charge right now and get this taken care of the chances of getting a letter in the mail with this kind of news is less likely to happen.  So let me help you get this DONE!

… If you’ve “had it up to here” with the government funded agencies that are slow-moving when you need help but QUICK when there is something in it for them and offers you zero peace of mind.

It’s time to get your ducks in a row and get prepared for the day that you may be dreading. Here’s what you need to do, right now:

Head on over to:


When you get there, watch the very short video and read every word on the page. If you decide there is value in it for you and your family, then go ahead and click the link and learn what could be one of the most important days of your life. Once you click the link it will take you to a page where you can type in your very best email. Type it in manually if you’re on mobile. (Using “autofill” sometimes messes it up.) Then check your inbox.

Here’s the link one last time:


It’s your choice…click-through, enter a valid email, get schooled.

See you in the free video about the Medicaid Recovery Estate Secret.

~ Donna Harris aka Donna The Crazy Caregiver